When you use a surrogate, you must obtain a lawyer. On my radio show In Search of Fertility, I spoke with attorney Julie Tavoso who shared critical information about surrogacy legal contracts. The issues are very complicated and vary across states. In fact in some states you have to adopt your own baby in order for the child to be yours, even if the infant is your own genetics, and the surrogate was hired just to be a carrier. If necessary be prepared to cross state lines. In fact surrogacy isn’t even legal in my own home state of New York.
In the new movie “Admission” Tina Fey wishes that she had raised a child. Then she finds a boy who may be the one she gave up for adoption. She helps him get into Princeton where she is an admission counselor. Before this move, Tina Fey got to star in a different one called ”Baby Mama,” about a single mom who hires a surrogate. Who knows next she may be in a movie where she gets to be an egg donor who falls in love with a sperm donor. Infertility has come into the movie mainstream!
This week on In Search of Fertility, I interviewed an egg donor named Colby. Colby donated four times previously. She wanted to help other women have a much desired baby. Colby felt that she was giving her eggs but the resulting babies were not hers. When I used an egg donor, I too had to feel that the baby would be truly mine. I greatly appreciated hearing about egg donation from the perspective of the donor. Colby enjoyed donating so much that she plans to donate two more times and to reach the six time recommended donation limit.
A two time surrogate shares her experiences on the In Search of Fertility radio show. Sandrine Levy tells of the joy of carrying a baby, giving birth and handing the miracle infant to an ecstatic family. Her own husband and children were supportive of her being a surrogate and her best cheer leaders during the process. Now Sandrine Levy helps others to become surrogates at the Family Forward Surrogacy agency. Surrogacy is as win-win for the surrogate and the lucky parents to be.
My recent guest on the radio show In Search of Fertility was Sandra Lippard of Family Forward Surrogacy. For those who need a surrogate, it is not always easy to find one. Family Forward Surrogacy can help make that happen for Americans and for women from other countries. The agency recently appeared on French TV. The French TV crew arrived to spotlight the arrival of French women who are coming to America for a surrogate. In France it is illegal to use a surrogate. Once their babies are brought home they are not even recognized as French citizens. In the United States not all states allow surrogacy, but at least the baby is recognized as a US citizen.
The book Far From The Tree by Andrew Solomon spotlights families with special needs children including those with dwarfism, schizophrenia and autism. The author writes about his own son at the end of the book. His son does not have a particular condition, but he was conceived with an egg donor and a surrogate. Andrew and his husband John created their son with Andrew’s sperm. They went on a donor egg hunt to find the egg donor. The surrogate came courtesy of gratitude. She was the mother of two child that her and her wife conceived from sperm donations by Andrew’s husband. She wanted to give back to her sperm donor and his husband by carrying their child. In the world of infertility there are less then six degrees of separation!
Psychotherapist Helen Adrienne was the radio show guest on In Search of Fertility. She wrote the book On Fertile Ground: Healing Infertility. The mind-body connection can be used to lower stress. Helen writes about “letting go” techniques like hypnosis and imagery. Positive thinking is a plus, and Helen quotes one of her clients whose Irish grandmother used to say “think a good, get a good.” Helen concludes that out of the adversity of infertility can come life change and unseen benefits. I know that for myself after five IVF trials with my own eggs and two more with donor eggs, I now am able to handle most things that come my way.
Now if you don’t get pregnant you can get your money back! I interviewed representatives of Attain Fertility Centers on the Radio show In Search of Infertility. If you don’t get pregnant from IVF, you can get your money back from Attain! When I was trying IVF five times with my own eggs, I was going broke. I met other women in the waiting room who had maxed out their credit cards and obtained second mortgages on their homes in order to try one more IVF attempt. In the end, I did not get my baby after my five attempts with my own eggs. I would have loved a refund! Next I went on to spend even more money by using donor eggs.
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